What Do Men Really Want?

I remember the romantic comedy movie "What Women Want? " with       

Mel Gibson, Helen Hunt, and Marisa Tomei. I find the movie entertaining,

 interesting and funny. In this movie Gibson has the ability to hear what

women are thinking, a man is listening to women's desires.

Certainly a man always asks a woman what does she wants from the beginning of their dating period, until they get married. Men Constantly ask "What do you want?"  It is very important for a man to know what pleases a woman, i guess it makes them feel better.

My answer is simple...a woman in general finds happiness and contentment when she is truly loved and cherished by her man.

The Woman on the other hand also asks questions like, How can a woman make his man love her truthfully? What Do Men Really Want?

Every now and then we hear stories of failed relationships. Men of different status in life ordinary or successful seem to be tempted in having flings or extra marital relationships. The latest controversy Tiger Woods---i'm pretty sure you heard the story already...it's been in the news for weeks. I find myself thinking what's the most important quality a woman should possess to make sure that her man stays in love with her for the rest of their lives.

What Do Men Really Want? Think, Think, Think...I kept thinking, researching, reading articles for answers. My curiosity seems to increase when it seems like the answer is too many, most women possess those qualities and yet it seems not enough for a man. I am thinking there is probably a unique quality in a woman they simply fall in love head over heels to a woman.

Since i can't find the answer, i just stopped thinking about it, one morning i decided to clean my mate's bookshelf,  a stack of pink pocket books caught my attention. The title reads the same, making me raise my eye brow and wonder why is he keeping six books of the same title, " Fascinating Womanhood" written by Helen B. Andelin. When i read the introduction and browsed a few pages i am convinced i finally found the answer to " What Men Really Want?" In her book Andelin shared principles a woman can apply in winning a man's genuine love.According to her the ideal woman in a man's point of view is divided into two parts.

1. The Angelic Side of a Woman which represents her good character, her ability to understand men, their feelings, needs, and sensitive nature.

2. The Human Side which describes a woman's appearance, manner, actions and includes the charms of feminity and good health.

These characteristics according to her make a woman perfect in the eyes of a man,  essential in winning a man's love with all his heart and soul with complete adoration.

Why are these qualities so important in a man's point of view? Are there women in this world who possess these qualities? The answer is YES! it's amazing to know that these women experienced great love and happiness from their husband. The author calls it CELESTIAL LOVE- a deep feeling within, more intense, spontaneous, and dynamic.

Join me as I learn more about "The Kind of Woman a Man Wants." as i continue reading " Fascinating Womanhood. I will share more of what i digest from the author in my next blog.

Photography-Capturing the Beauty and Wonder of Nature...

Capturing special moments, and nature's beauty is one of my hobby. I find happiness when i take pictures of my family and friends during their un-guarded moments. Stolen shot captures the natural beauty and emotions of people. They complain when i do that, they think i'm making fun of them. I admit sometimes i do it for fun. I also want to record their funny moments! I just wanna bring laughters that's all, but i never meant to ridicule...

Anyway, since photography is my hobby i make sure that i always bring my camera with me wherever i go. I also make sure that i have lots of extra batteries. I feel upset whenever i run out of batteries specially when i'm in a place where there's no store around. It happened to me a few times and i started practicing being a girl scout. Now i don't have a problem i have a dozen of rechargeable batteries.

Oh well, i just one to share some of the pictures i took while travelling with my honey. He doesn't want me to take picrures of him but he wants me to take pictures of the places we visit. I'm thankful we share the same passion. Here they are...

  

  

Looking at these pictures brings joy to my heart. No matter how difficult life nowadays... people become stressful, sometimes situation turns ugly, calamities strike but still there are so many things around us worth admiring. I always enjoy and love being with nature, its' wonders and beauty. 

Love is a Matter Of Choice

It's not everyday we find a person who knows how to share the True Meaning of Love, People come and go in our lives, most of them are just acquaintances, some we get to know, a few stays in our life who become our friends, and through our life's journey we eventually find that one person whom you feel so connected deep into your self and occupies the very special place in your heart permanently- we call it our Lifetime Partner.

Many ask the question, When will I find the Right Person? I want To share this piece which was sent to me by one of my dear friend. This was also sent to her by a friend. Nobody knows who wrote it. But i tell you the person who wrote this poem nailed it.The message is straight and simple...it touches my heart and the message runs deep in my soul. Here it is...

"Love, Chance and Choice"

When we meet the right person to love when we're at the right place at the right time,

that's chance.

When you meet someone you're attracted to, that's not a choice.

That's chance.

Being caught up in a moment (and there's a lot of couples who get together because of this) is not a choice. That's also a chance.

The difference is what happens afterwards.

When will you take that infatuation, that crush, that mind-blowing attraction to the next level?

That's when all sanity goes back,

you sit down and contemplate whether you want to make this into a concrete relationship or just a fling.

If you decide to love a person, even with his faults, that's not a chance.

That's choice.

When you choose to be with a person, no matter what,

that's choice.

Even if you know there are many people out there who are more attractive, smarter, and richer than your mate, and yet, you decide to love your mate just the same,

that's choice.

Infatuation, crushes, attraction comes to us by chance.

But true love that lasts is truly a choice.

A choice that we make.

Regarding soul mates, there's a beautiful movie quote that I believe is true:

" Fate brings you together, but it's still up to you to make it happen."

I do believe that soul mates do exist.
That there is truly someone made for you.

But it's still up to you to make the choice if you're going to do something about it or not.We may meet our soul mates by chance, but loving and staying with our soul mates is still a choice we have to make.

We came to the world not by finding someone perfect to love... BUT.. to learn how to love an imperfect person perfectly... 

Conclusion: it is not the matter how to find someone perfect to love,
but how to love someone imperfect perfectly .....

Love itself is a choice.

I enjoy reading this piece, whoever wrote it, I'm so thankful. It is true. Love is a choice we make. Love in its' true essence doesn't find fault, it finds the Best out of the person you love. My mate once wrote me a letter and he said....I am not that good at expressing my feelings towards you in words. I hope someday i can tell you everything i feel about you and how much you inspire me. Just know that you have a big place in my heart even if i don't say it much. Oh well that was one of his short messages but i know for sure that he really mean it. To hear "I Love You "from the person you love is so precious, it brings so much happiness. It is magical. My mate chooses to say the three magic words in different ways. I love it. I hope you too enjoy reading the poem "Love, Chance and Choice" it is an eye opener.